When I was younger, I was always asked what I wanted to be when I was growing up. I always answered something different every time I was asked because what five year old knows what they want to do to support themselves as an adult? I feel it’s the same now, except I’m now thirty and it isn’t adorable anymore to change my mind every year with my interests. Regardless of what hobby I’m learning that year, my dreams have always been unconventional. I’m now accepting the fact that this means I’m not going to live a conventional life.

I battled the thought of doing the norm. Respectively, I tried college a few times, and really pushed myself to be the 9-5 “cubicle normy” that was expected of me. I found out after years of depression and crippling anxiety that wasn’t what I wanted for myself. I tried hard to be that person, to the point where it almost killed me, and have slowly been peeling off the layers of societies expectations.

My life is led by passion and the analytical side of brain puts the pieces together after my heart is happily chasing a new dream.

Most people fear this unpredictable lifestyle because of it’s lack of stability. However, this is the lifestyle I’ve always craved. I actually felt worse when my life was a predictable timeline. What’s the point if you’re not making the most of these short years? While it may be unconventional, I’ll have less “what ifs” when the time comes for me to leave these physical plane.

I read an article about what the number one regret was when people were on their death bed. The number one regret was living their life to please other people and not going out and doing what they really wanted. I don’t want to be on my death bed regretting that I never tried to do what I really wanted just to satisfy anyone else’s expectations of what I should be doing with my life.

In reality, no one cares what you do with your life.

They’re all too worried about other people worrying about their own life. Submitting to societal expectations set upon them by the media and corporations that survive by our need to consume everything. I am guilty of this myself. I was once obsessed with the beauty industry and buying every palette on the market and every new lipstick that Lime Crime came out with.

Now, I can’t even fathom spending that much money on an item that I was told I need in order to be “prettier” and somehow that translates to “self-worth.” It’s the same thing for people who need the newest iPhone, or a new car, or to buy a bigger house. Somehow, under all of the consumer guilting and societies expectations is a giant lie that these things will fill us with happiness and make up feel self-worth.

Once I learned the truth and actually forced myself to rewire my brain away from blind consumerism, I have broke free from the conventional life of work all day to pay for things. I want to work less and experience more.

I’ve also found that some of the best things to experience are absolutely free. Things like hiking, going to the beach, family time, or exploring a new city are all free.

I think once you make the switch from the consumer mentality to an experience mentality there’s no going back. For me, it all started when I went vegan. That lifestyle change really opened my eyes to the reality of the world we live in. I found the minimalist community through the vegan community and the rest is history. Once educated, I no longer wanted the life I grew up thinking I was supposed to want.

I no longer dream of the white picket fence, wrap-around fence, the full multi-car garage, and the 2.5 kids. In fact, with the unconventional mindset of “less is more,” everything I wanted changed. I didn’t care about having the cutest clothes, or a pair of shoes to match every outfit. I gave up on the idea of having a separate room for crafts, and a man-cave for the future husband. My phone is always a few versions behind and I don’t even own a TV.

That’s right, I’m living proof that a millennial can successfully live without a TV.

I have a hulu account that I will watch through my phone on occasion, but I don’t have wifi so I have limited data to do so.

I know this unconventional life isn’t for everyone. Also, I know that people will always want the best of the best and literally kill themselves to be able to afford an extra room in their mansion. I know people will continue to fear what others think instead of trying to go after the life they really long for.

I just want you all to know that you have everything you need to create the (unconventional) life you dream of.

You don’t need validation from anyone. You also don’t need to keep ANYONE else happy besides yourself. If you’re in a partnership that requires an agreement to making life decisions, there’s a fine line between compromising and living your life to please someone else. Make sure your needs are heard.

I might never live the life that I’m “supposed” to, but I will be happy knowing that I at least tried to live the life I truly want.

If you haven’t been following, I will be moving into my minivan soon. I have been building it out for a few months and you can check out the progress on my YouTube channel. The ultimate goal is to be able to travel full time and work online. I will be able to manifest that life and it has already started to become a reality. The truth is, I started working on this goal two years ago thinking it was impossible and it is finally manifesting into a reality.

I truly believe anything is possible.

Your dream life may be unconventional, but don’t give up on it just because others don’t understand it. Most likely the people who are disapproving of your dreams are just living in fear. They probably once had dreams of their own, but gave them up to blend into society.

Don’t blend when you’re meant to stand out!

Thank you so much for being here. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me or leave a comment below.

xoxo

P.S. I have finally update and made changes to the website. Feel free to look around and check out the new pages. I also updated my Etsy and will be adding more and more of the pendants I make.